'Tis the season to be merry and to be married, I suppose. I have at least a couple of wedding invitations for each weekend for the next four weeks. Only one did I get invited to the nikah; the rest are for the receptions. It's no longer like before, I sometimes lament. No longer are you at the hosts' house, lending a hand, making menyibuk. No longer are you consulted for the colour scheme or for the best kiuh akok in the neighbourhood. Even the nikah invitation I got was to attend the ceremony, not to help out.It didn't use to be this way, there used to be makciks from two kampungs away offering to lend a hand, or if she couldn't, she would send a representative. I no longer feel the building up of a big event coming anymore, with the marriage even of a close relative. We went to AHS' niece's wedding in Ampangan two Sundays ago, and we were 'guests'. I mentioned this to AHS and he said, "Do you really want to be helping out? You get home only at five, on a good day." He has a point, but...
My cousin's son got married on Saturday (9 th June). After much deliberation, I f
elt I should make myself menyibuk and turn up. And that's what I did. Maybe that's what people do not know how to do anymore -- to just be there, unannounced, unasked. We have lost that spontaneity, somewhat. But all's not lost. I went, several hours before nikah time, fussed about the hantaran, asked about the groom (who was nowhere to be seen: my cousin was frantic), chatted with my aunt who complained about the noise (but feeling really pleased about it, in secret) and when the time came, everything fell into place.
elt I should make myself menyibuk and turn up. And that's what I did. Maybe that's what people do not know how to do anymore -- to just be there, unannounced, unasked. We have lost that spontaneity, somewhat. But all's not lost. I went, several hours before nikah time, fussed about the hantaran, asked about the groom (who was nowhere to be seen: my cousin was frantic), chatted with my aunt who complained about the noise (but feeling really pleased about it, in secret) and when the time came, everything fell into place.I was glad I went. We should do that more often: being there un-announced. It can be rewarding.
2 comments:
You are right there, Jooli. We've got to do it the way we used to do. Mr D too is always so conscious about dropping by others' place unannounced. Takut 'menyusahkan'. Oh, bugger... With real Malays, there's no such thing - especially at weddings. Well done! But I guess it's more difficult for you now, eh?
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